What is a Dildo?

While you might think a dildo has to look a certain way, dildos are just adult sex toys with the purpose of penetration. They come in all colors and a wide variety of materials.

Some dildos are designed to look realistic while others don’t even look remotely similar to a real penis.

They can be smooth or have textures and ridges.

Some are straight, while others are curved to hit your sweet spots.

You can choose between vibrating and non-vibrating options, suction-cup dildos, strap-on products, and more.

What to Consider When Dildo Shopping

Dildos are designed to hit all the right spots when you use them.

But in order for your toy to work how you want it to, you first have to know what you want.

• Are you looking for a lifelike experience, or do you prefer the feel of a firm and smooth material, such as glass?
• Do you want to focus on G-spot stimulation, or are you just after penetration in general?

These are all good questions to ask yourself before you buy your dildo.

Here are some other factors to keep in mind:

Size and Texture

If this is your first time buying a dildo, you may want to start with something small and simple. This is especially true if you’ve never had sex.

If you’ve never bought a sex toy before, go for a smooth dildo. You can always progress to more complex options with ridges or twisted designs later on.

Women who are experienced with sex and want a realistic experience with their dildo will be better off with a product that looks like a penis.

If you’ve had a variety of sexual partners, you probably already know what size and shape you prefer. So, try to choose your dildo accordingly.

Shape

Some women require G-spot stimulation for a pleasurable sexual experience. If you’re one of them, choose your sex toy accordingly.

G-spot dildos will be labeled as such and have a curved shape designed to hit your spot perfectly.

Or perhaps you want a dildo for anal pleasure.

If that’s the case, shape is also very important. You’ll need to choose an option with either a handle or a flared base to prevent the toy from getting stuck in your rectum.

Vibrating vs. Non-Vibrating

Another key factor to consider is whether or not you want a vibrating dildo.

If you want the experience of using your toy to feel like real sex, vibrations probably aren’t so important.

Other women, however, love the feel of a vibrating sex toy. Decide which you would prefer to have before you choose.

I personally recommend a vibrating option because it gives you the choice to either add vibrations to the mix or not.

But the best part of vibrating toys?

Super intense orgasms!

Consider checking out my vibrator buying guide for more information on these toys.

Buying Multiple Dildos

A lot of women have not just one dildo, but a collection of toys.

As you get more aroused, you may find that you want to switch from a smaller toy to something larger.

Or you might find that with different moods, you crave different types of stimulation (like pulsing vibrations or a larger girth).

If you simply can’t decide which type of dildo is best for you, you may consider buying multiple types.

That way, no matter what you feel like, you’ll have the right toy for the occasion.

Solo vs. Partner Play

Another factor to think about before you choose your dildo is whether you’ll mainly use it alone or with someone else.

A toy you’ll use by yourself doesn’t necessarily need to have any special features apart from what you prefer.

If you want to share your toy with a partner, though, its characteristics may be different.

For example, you may choose to get a double-ended or strap-on dildo instead of an ordinary design.

Tips for Using Your Dildo

Once you have your dildo in your hands, how do you ensure the best experience possible?

Below are some helpful tips:

Start Out Solo

When you’re getting used to using your new dildo, you’ll want to start out by yourself. This is especially true if you’re completely new to sex toys.

Here’s the deal:

Using your toy solo will make you feel less self-conscious.

You can use this time to figure out what turns you on and what sensations you prefer.

Then, once you know what you like, you can share your preferences with a partner.

Get Prepared

A dildo isn’t something you can just dive right into using without any preparation. You need to make sure you’re nice and turned on before attempting any penetration.

Masturbate however you normally would before you add the toy into the equation. Try to also ensure that you’re in a relaxed mood before you use your toy.

I also highly recommend using lubricant with your toy (more on this later).

Go Slowly

If you’re a first-timer, you need to go slowly when you’re using your new sex toy, initially. Rushing the process won’t do you any favors.

Pay close attention to how your toy feels as you experiment with shallow penetration and slow strokes. You can always increase speed and intensity as you progress.

Experiment

As soon as you’ve gotten accustomed to the feel of the dildo, you can play around with different speeds and rhythms.

Your dildo is all about your pleasure, and you can make it do whatever you want it to do.

If you aren’t sure what you like yet, experimentation is all the more important!

Try out quick and shallow strokes, long and deeper thrusts, and everything in between. Take your time and feel it out.

This will help you have better experiences with partners in the future since you’ll know what to ask them for.

Trust me:

Nothing is sexier than a woman who knows what she likes and isn’t afraid to ask for it.

Try Different Positions

Don’t be afraid to get imaginative with positions while you’re playing with your dildo.

While it’s fun to lie on your back while you’re using it, some women also have a great time riding their toys. And if you get a toy with a suction cup, you can even do doggy style.

You can also experiment with adjusting the length of your dildo by holding the shaft at different points for shallower or deeper penetration.

Playing around with different angles is another fun way to explore with your new toy.